Stickymom woke up one morning and started thinking about how much better off she would be, had "someone" told her a thing or two when she was younger. That's how today's subject came up:
10 things I would definitely tell my younger self
if I got hold of a time machine
As for me, I claim to have no regrets about my life choices. At least not to make any changes if I could re-write my story.
But this is simply about sharing my wisdom, so let's do this:
Hello, younger self, you're looking good! How are you doing? This is your future talking, which is actually a great thing, I tried to meet my older self one day, and it was quite enlightning, so listen carefully:
- No matter what you'd like to think, friends are not always forever. Actually they rarely are. Enjoy it while it lasts and don't feel bad to move on. If you're always the one calling, listening, giving your time, and there's never anything in return any more, it's not worth it. You're not being petty, you're being realistic.
- I agree, you might never need math in real life. Or other school stuff for that matter. It's still important to get the basics, though. Even if it's just to make sure you can graduate. It's no fun to be the subject of a "grading conference" where teachers debate whether you're lazy or just limited in your capacitities.
- Speaking of teachers. Yes, there will always be the ones who just don't get you. That's their problem, not yours. However, they're the ones who grade you. Learn to get along.
- As you'll have your first job you will notice that there are a****** bosses, just like teachers. There's no point in getting annoyed every day. Use your energy do to a good job and focus on where you can make a difference. Changing idiots into nice and smart people won't work, but you can change your attitude.
- When you're young you may have to accept jobs to make a living. Don't lose your dreams out of sight, though. Try to find something to do that you love. You spend a lot of time at work, better make it a good time. Oh, and know when to take a break, too. Blood sucking bosses won't visit you at the hospital after you've had a heart attack. Fortunately I didn't have to learn this the hard way. I listened to my husband for a change.
- You can't please everyone. If in doubt, please yourself! Simple as that. It's not selfish, it's healthy. And if you don't look out for yourself, who will? It's nice to be helpful and trustful, just try and be more skeptical sometimes. Saves you quite a bit of trouble.
- Boys? Tough to find the needle in the haystack, but there are a few nice ones out there. Take your time and remember, it's better to be alone than in a bad relationship! Heartache is a bitch, but just like math you can't avoid it, and you'll have to deal with your share of it. You'll come out a stronger person.
- Marriage and kids - just because everybody is doing it at a certain age doesn't mean if you don't, you'll miss out. Everyone goes at their own speed. If it's in your cards, you'll get there.
- Speak up! Even if you're pretty good at mind reading yourself, other people aren't. You have to tell them what you want, and how and when you want it. This goes for business and private life and has nothing to do with bossing people around, but merely about communicating your expectations and giving people a fair chance to meet them.
- Have faith in yourself. Listen to your intuition, if something feels wrong, be brave and don't do it. If you feel storngly about something but think it's unattainable, do your homework. Find a way! Ask for help! I know you can!
That was a lot of preaching. If you can only do one thing, please pick #10 - everything else will follow. Now go out there and kick a**! Love ya!