When you decide you want to have kids, it may be for many reasons:
A deeply rooted biological desire, wanting to create a family legacy, the belief that having a child will bring partners closer, an attempt to escape from the corporate world, a desire to experience parenthood as a unique, life-changing journey, wanting to contribute to the world by raising thoughtful, kind individuals, or simply because everybody else is doing it, and let's not forget pressure from family and/or society.
For most people it's probably a combination of these and other factors.
Fact is, at some point you will find yourself looking in the mirror and go "what was I thinking? Motherhood is not what I thought it would be. I can't do this." Maybe you're not looking in the mirror because you're sitting on the floor, crying.
The sleep deprivation, the Groundhog Day experience of feeding, changing diapers, doing laundry and not feeding yourself, people telling you "enjoy them while they're little, it all goes by so fast" - it's getting to you. Big Time.
This is clearly not what you've signed up for. You wanted the cookie baking, going to the playground and doing crafts! You wanted happy, smiling kids, not the tantrums, the nap refusals and the constant testing of boundaries!
And then there were the rare days where you got to have fun and spend real quality time with your kid(s).
I consider myself lucky that I actually had lots of them. I came across a colourful reminder of it just the other day.
Looking back I really get to say I made good use of my time: As a part-time working Mom I got to spend a good amount of time with my kiddo. When it was snowing we got to build that snowman.
When the weather was nice, we got to go to the park or the lake.
We got to invite his little friends over for a playdate - or a frog lunch party. No, we didn't eat frog legs ;-) it was their seasonal theme at daycare.
Plus we got to attend hockey school - and the journey that followed.
This last picture just inspired me to write my next post, keep your eyes open!
What is your take on being a Mom: Imagination vs Reality? Did the positive days outweigh the negative ones for you too?
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